Lately, life has been so turbulent and unpredictable that I have been forced to rethink many of the things I once believed to be true.
As human beings, we tend to want control over what happens in our lives.
You know that saying, “go with the flow”?
I genuinely thought I was doing that. I was making choices that felt aligned, doing what was good for me, holding on to what I believed to be true because at one point I felt it so deeply.
But if there is one thing we can be absolutely certain of, it is this:
Change.
The only constant in life is change.
That important decision you made? It may simply be the next step toward where you need to be. It does not mean you have to hold on to expectations about how it should unfold.
Maybe that decision was never meant to work out the way your mind imagined. Maybe it was simply the doorway to something much bigger and much better.
Before we can receive what our heart truly desires, certain expectations and beliefs have to be shattered.
Not because they were wrong. Not because they were bad.
But because you have changed. You have grown beyond them. You have outgrown the version of yourself that once needed them.
And now you are becoming ready for what you truly desire, even if your mind cannot comprehend it yet.
What I have learned is not to cling so tightly to how my dreams should appear, or to the direction I think my life should be taking.
Life is a journey of constant transformation.
Control is a big fat illusion.
We think we know where we are going. We think we know what is best. We think we know how things should happen.
And then life laughs and says: “That’s cute.”
The truth is that we have far less control than we believe we do.
Once a choice has been made and the wheel has been set in motion, life will take that choice and weave it into something far greater than our minds could ever plan.
Sometimes we don’t even have control over how we feel.
And strangely enough, that is often the exact moment when something extraordinary can enter our lives.
It is in that space of uncertainty, that strange Twilight Zone where nothing makes sense anymore, that new possibilities begin to emerge.
All you really have to do is let go.
Let go of control. Let go of certainty. Let go of needing to know.
And realize that you actually don’t know shit.
We are not great teachers.
We are students of this life.
Life will take us exactly where we need to be, not necessarily where we think we should be.
So my new motto is this:
When everything seems to be burning down around me, when plans collapse and certainty disappears, I let go of everything I once believed to be true and repeat the wisest words I have yet to find in any spiritual book:
“I don’t know shit.”
Be well, my friends.
Stay humble.
And remember:
If something is not going the way you want it to go, it is because you are destined for something far greater than you have ever wished for.
Let go and flow.
Trust the process.
And know that this shit is going to be lit.
Wisdom From The Heart 